Praise for Barash Mediation

This was a great time for me to join this workshop, as I have come to realize that as an administrator dealing with conflict I have to be a good mediator and time to manage conflict.
-school administrator from conference of International Schools, Bangkok, Thailand-

Finally, I would be remiss if I failed to mention the diligent effort and hard work of Ms. Barash in bringing both sides together to formulate a settlement in this matter. Her skillful efforts brought this case to successful resolution. Thank you for assigning her to this case.
-attorney representing a client in an employment discrimination case-

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Family Mediation

You will find that Mediation is a voluntary process that helps people focus on what is important to them. Mediation provides a structure at a time when working together may be difficult. In Mediation you will find that the focus is on solutions not blame. With the guidance of the mediator, solutions are explored first by uncovering what is most important to the parties so that they then can come to a solution that makes sense for their particular situation.

It is often the case that agreements settled in mediation are more sustainable over time than those decided by a judge. The parties own their own process and are full participants in the resolution. Once a court is involved, the ownership is turned over to the court. In mediation, the parties have the opportunity to spend the time uncovering all the issues that are important with their attached emotions. If a case is turned over to the court, the court gets a ‘snapshot’ of what is important and then makes a decision based on that small slice of time and information.

Phoebe has heard from clients that the time spent together in mediation can actually contribute to the commitment to a resolution.

If you choose to attend mediation with Phoebe, this is what you will find:

Phoebe is impartial, she does not tell you what to do, say who is right or wrong, or negotiate past history.
She will help you have discussions that will help you to move forward in your divorce, separation or family or workplace dispute.
She will ask lots of questions.
The questions serve a couple of purposes.
Questions can inform Phoebe to help guide the conversation.
The questions that Phoebe asks may be the same questions you have been grappling with but because emotions can run high, it may be challenging to hear each other.
With a third impartial  party listening, guiding and asking questions, you may find that you are able to hear the other party more clearly.
Phoebe is not an attorney and cannot give legal advice.
Regarding Family Mediation: With many years of experience with the Vermont Family Court, Phoebe is very familiar with the procedures, forms and timelines of the Family Court.

What are the benefits of mediation?
Mediation provides a structure to the conversation at a time when communication can be difficult.
Mediation is less expensive than working through attorneys.
For separation and divorce mediation:
Parents learn to make the change from being conflicting spouses to cooperating parents.
The process models for children that the parents are in it for the children.
Children benefit from the example of their parents working out their differences.

Types of Mediation offered:

  • Divorce and Marital
  • Family Law (child custody, child support, visitation)
  • parent/child
  • ElderCare
  • workplace



Helping Children With Divorce

Vermont Courts

Association for Conflict Resolution

NE Association  for Conflict  Resolution

Association for Family & Conciliatory Courts

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